Is It Normal to Smash Plates?
I cooked some spaghetti for my husband afer her came home from work, but he didn’t like the taste and he yelled at me “this is shit”! He threw the plate against the wall. The plate broke and ruined the wall with tomato sauce. Afterward, he forced me to clean everything all while insulting me.
Addressing the issue
My answer to this has a couple of different parts. Initially, I kept thinking of ways to respond without being a condescending a**hole. I don’t think I managed a response that meets that description, so we will proceed as best as we know how.
Let’s being by focusing on the words you chose to describe your situation. You intimated you’re experiencing an overwhelming sense of helplessness. While those were not your chosen words, you are clearly feeling like you have not control over your circumstances. I have talked with many people who have expressed this sentiment. It sounds like this situation could escalate, unexpectedly, and in a dangerous way. If this could potentially be true, you need to seek help, to fix the situation or get out of it, quickly.
This is not normal behavior: Adults don’t throw dishes. Most of all, they certainly don’t throw dishes at those who prepared a meal for them. When you say you had to clean it up, is that like you had to because he didn’t? Were you forced to clean up without your consent? Normally I would share a story relating scenarios to the submitted questions, but in your case, I just don’t have one.
Honestly, I’m not really qualified to answer your question in a way that is meaningful, or goes beyond ” Girl fuck him get out of there”. I will leave you with this, get help, professional or otherwise. I want you to know you have options, and you don’t have to live in fear. We care.
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