Today’s question

How do I tell my husband that he is no longer good enough for me? I got fit. I got promoted. There are dozens of men at my work that are better looking, drive better cars, stay in larger homes, that have manifested interest in me. I decided I deserve more and better.


I had to let this question sit in my spirit a little.  Anyone who has made a substantial change in their lifestyle will have the tendency to reevaluate their circumstances.  As someone who has experienced this, I can relate.  Once, I was heavier than I am today.  At my heaviest, I was 580 pounds, at 6ft 5in.  I didn’t think that I looked that bad, but I was in denial.  I had a weight loss surgery, and boy did it change more than just the number on the scale.  As I began to lose weight,  the dormant parts of my personality resurfaced.  It felt really good to be the person I always wanted to be, but was too embarrassed because of my weight.

 It’s ok to feel better about you

This kind of thing has a tremendous impact on the way that you see yourself and the way you feel when interacting with others.  This brings me to my point.  You mentioned that you were starting to receive attention from the men at work.  The newly found attention has more to do with the way you feel about you than the way you look.  I am not naive, however, it is clear that your “improved” figure has something to do with the attention as well. That being said, I am going to have to go ahead take my sensitivity hat off.

With all due love and respect

You are totally full of shit.  Did your marriage vows mean anything to you?  I hope that you have left some details out of this story that will upgrade my opinion of the kind of person you are.  You really need to do something to soothe the materialist beast that is taking over in your life.  How do you know that the men at work, with the better cars and homes are actually better?  How do you know they are not abusers, keeping a spare ass whipping on hold for you? Perhaps they are jealous, controlling, and unwilling to allow you the same freedom as your current husband.  There are millions of hypothetical situations I could conjure to correct your momentary lapse into ignorance, but I will stop here.

Final Answer

What i will say, your current state of mind is temporary.  You may be successful at keeping your figure but your insides will continue to be fucked up as long as you continue in this current vein of immaturity.  Sex, money, cars, all fade.  Unless you no longer value your current relationship, you need to sit the hell down somewhere.  We still love you tho sis  🙂

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